Forgive me, Readers, for I have deserted my post (no pun intended!).
My last post here was in February–I missed an entire season of blogging (and this site’s 11th birthday on March 16).
Despite my frequent and prolonged absences from this space, I still identify as a blogger. I’ve been struggling with frequent feelings of disconnection and unsettledness. I’m pretty sure one of the causes is that my actions and identity haven’t exactly been in sync.
Identifying the problem is a necessary first step toward solving it. And hey–this is actually a problem I can solve, all by myself!
There are, of course, other factors involved here. I think we can identify disconnection, disillusionment, frustration and exhaustion as common symptoms of American life in 2018. It’s more important than ever to know what’s going on in the world. And it’s more tempting than ever to burrow under the covers.
Are you struggling to calibrate what you need to know about the Big Things with what you need to know to deal with your own life every day? I know I am.
Big Little Things
I’m not here to talk about Big Things today, though. I just want to recap some of the not-so-big things that have been claiming my attention since I was last here.
Family Life: Technically speaking, we have no “children” anymore–the youngest turned 18 in December. He’s now a high-school graduate (with honors :-)) and will be starting university at Cal State Northridge in the fall.
And so now it seems the parents are taking center stage–our parents, I mean. My father is now 89 and has had several falls–fortunately, without major damages–during the last couple of years. He continues to live on his own but requires a lot of careful watching. Fortunately, he lives in the same town as my sister and me, so that’s doable. Meanwhile, we’re preparing to move Paul’s mother into a nearby assisted-living community nearby. It’s a big shift–a much smaller space more than 100 miles from the community she’s lived in for over 25 years–and it’s been a process preparing her to make it.
And for you Winchester fans–the dog is fine.
Work Life: My current role at work is an amplified version of my former role as Controller, incorporating some of the responsibilities I had last year as (acting) CFO. That’s partly because we still haven’t hired a full-time CFO, six months after I stepped down and out part-time-interim CFO came on board. I don’t know if I’m feeling less work stress than I did at this time last year, but it feels differently stressful, if that makes sense. (And having given up the acting-CFO pay when I stepped down, there’s literally less compensation for the stress.)
And after 15 years with this agency, the 80-mile daily round-trip communt is growing increasingly tiresome. At least it still offers prime audiobook and podcast time!
“Life” Life: There’s not so much to report on other fronts, and I’ll get to what there is in another post (or maybe even two!). I have been reading, seeing movies, and watching some good TV. This isn’t looking like much of a travel year.
I keep thinking of 2017 as The Year That Disappeared. To be honest, though, that’s a bit of an exaggeration. It was a year that mostly disappeared from the blog (18 posts in 365 days!), but some of it’s on Instagram. On a personal level, the highs points of 2017 were pretty darn high: I stepped up into a new high-level role at work. Paul and I spent 12 amazing days in Italy. We appreciated […]
I had hoped to get Readings for the Resistance, February 2017 (Part 2) up last week, but job transitioning took precedence. (On that note, today is officially my first day as Chief Financial Officer at Aviva Family and Childen’s Services.) The delay just gave me more time to collect links! Is resistance happening near you? Check out The Resistance Calendar. It’s That Guy. The Resistible One. President Trump is a ‘world-class narcissist,’ but he’s not mentally […]
I have several different, but not opposing, goals for these “Readings for the Resistance” roundups. Some of the posts and articles I’ll share are practical–they advise or offer support. Some are analytical–they provide background and context for recent events. They’re stories I found thought-provoking, or provocative (not necessarily the same thing), or perspective-shifting. I collect more links over the course of a week than I include in these posts. And there are links I don’t save […]
The “Readings for the Resistance” link roundup will be a recurring feature here at The 3 R’s Blog for as long as conditions make it necessary. It may be a while, folks. My Facebook feed is even more political now than it was before the election. This is definitely not normal. Readings for the Resistance: Volume 2 of who knows how many Lifehacker | How to Make Your Voice Heard in Politics Between Elections (…and start getting ready […]
Reading for The Resistance The times they are a-changin’. I just thought I’d share a few think pieces today as we enter this new era. theSkimm‘s Guide to Going Through the Change: The Presidential Transition and the Inauguration [Washington Post] A hellscape of lies and distorted reality awaits journalists covering President Trump. (The real news about dealing with the upcoming fake-news avalanche) [LA Times] Trump’s approach might seem new, but Arnold Schwarzenegger tried it first (California’s been […]
This will probably be the last post-election reading list I share here. Perhaps the blog’s been a little too political for some readers recently. I got an email from Feedblitz over the weekend saying someone had unsubscribed for reason “02: Offensive, strongly disagree or disapprove.” I was surprisingly undisturbed by that. This is the space where I distill my thoughts on what I read and where all opinions are my own. I understand that you may […]
If I said that the biggest disappointment of the 2016 Presidential election was NOT the outcome, I don’t think you’d think I meant it. So yes, let’s stipulate that for those of us who are disappointed by the outcome, that’s the biggie. The disappointment is compounded by the fact that Hillary Clinton may have received close to 200,000 400,000* more votes than Donald Trump. (Or maybe more than 1.000.000*.) But they didn’t come from the right […]
Yesterday, I started the process of processing. I included some links at the end of that post. I’m recycling that list here, following some other pieces I found after that went up. Two Days After: The Reactions Keep Coming On “Woke” White People Advertising their Shock that Racism just won a Presidency – Medium Rage Against the Minivan: How to talk to your kids about Trump winning the election The Self-Sabotage of the West | […]
The Day After Election Day 2016: A Brain Dump “What comes next? “Do you know how hard it is to lead? “Do you have a clue what happens now?” The next leader of our country will be someone who has never served in public office before. He has also not yet publicly shown any real grasp of, or even interest in, how public service in American government actually works. NONE OF US has a clue […]
How I Vote If you follow me on social media, you’ve probably noticed that I’ve been sharing a lot of political stuff for the last few months. (And if you haven’t blocked me for doing so, thank you!) Today’s post responds to a query from one of my sharing groups: “What’s your voting plan? Do you grab Starbucks beforehand? Take a selfie outside? Go before work, bring the kids, or get in line towards the […]
The heat wave that ushered autumn into Southern California seems to have broken, finally, and I decided to take advantage of it by setting up the laptop on the patio. (Paul’s always reminding me that the thing is actually portable!) I plan to switch over from writing to reading this afternoon, but I intend to spend as much time as possible in my outdoor office today! I finished reading Alexander Hamilton in audiobook earlier this week […]