Do you ever get the feeling you’ve walked right into the middle of something?
It was one of those dreams that was so vivid it was hard to shake off, and I’m still thinking about it. I realize that for some people it would be a wonderful dream, and one they really hope will be fulfilled. For me, it was definitely one that I’m glad was just a dream, and one I have no desire to see come true. It occurred to me as I thought about the dream that I don’t know what it would feel like to learn I was pregnant – and be happy about it.
My husband and I are in our mid-forties, this is a second marriage for us both, and between us we have children in their twenties, teens, and pre -teens. We’d really like to see them all out on their own before we’re in our sixties, and so we have agreed that we will not have any children together. The timing would be all wrong. And as someone whose only non-dream pregnancy occurred when she was a nineteen-year-old, single college student, I have some experience with babies and bad timing.
Then again, I’m not sure that many babies actually come along at the right time. Here’s the dream: you’ve been married a couple of years, you have some money in the bank and a comfortable home, and you and your spouse have decided it’s time to Start a Family. Within six months, you’re happily expecting your new addition. Baby arrives, and after about a year or so, you’ve got things figured out reasonably well, and it’s about time to think about giving Baby a sibling. By your fifth wedding anniversary, you’ve got two thriving children and have found a work/family mix that meets all of your needs.
Did reality work out that way for ANYONE you know?
You’re in the middle of my latest post for the Los Angeles Moms Blog. If you want to know how it started and see how it ends, here’s where you can read the rest.
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